What Working on Our RV Has Taught Me About Life
So a few weeks ago I announced we bought an RV, were going to fix it up and hit the road. I talked about desire and adventure and dreaming. But here's the thing. Fixing up and redecorating one thing has led to us fixing up and redecorating another.
Our RV is currently sitting in our driveway, no carpet or flooring, no cabinet doors on, it still needs new tires, and I spent 3 hours trying to re-wire the new stereo I bought, only to find out there's no power to the stereo. The new silver hinges we bought to hold the cabinet doors on that matched our white/gray paint are off by 1mm, so they don't line up. We bought a new door knob for the bathroom, but there's a 5 inch backset (which you can't buy in the stores, so we had to order that online). I blew a bunch of fuses because I was told I could buy any wall sconces and install them in the RV, turns out that I need wall sconces that run on 12v power. One thing after another after another after another.
And this is where the life lessons have come in. Nothing ever works out exactly how you picture it in your head. Which leads to a lot of frustrated yelling, urges to just call it quits and move on from whatever stupid idea it is that I'm currently pursuing. Unmet expectations can destroy a lot more than just a day. At least in my world they do. I was literally in tears the other night because I just want to get out on the road and out of this stupid house we live in. I just want the RV done.
But it's not done. And we don't really have the money to hire someone who knows what they're doing to do it for us. So Jenny and I are approaching the RV just like we do with our businesses and life in general. We take it one breath at a time (which is really all we have when you think about it). We watch a lot of youtube videos. We ask around in the amazing Facebook groups (1)(2) we've found geared towards RV living and kids. We hustle and figure stuff out, even though it's incredibly frustrating.
And that's how life goes, though. Especially when you're pursuing unconventional living. So here's a few tips & and tricks I've applied to my days recently...
- Radical self care - I've done yoga every day for the past 7 days. I've squeezed it in because I know how good it is to nurture my body in that way. I've been doing more rounds of breathing and meditation and cold showers. I have cut way back on sugar and drink way more water. When dealing with frustrating scenarios, taking care of yourself should be a priority. These are the things that work for me. Find what radical self care for you looks like and commit to making the space for it.
- Trust you're on the right path - If you pause and take a few breaths, especially when you're caught all up in IT, does it feel like you're living the life you want for yourself? If the answer is yes, work as hard as you can to hold onto that faith and trust that you're on the right path. If the answer is know, what pivot do you need to make? What is your heart asking of you? I'm a big believer in letting my heart guide me. And following my heart is rarely easy, but always fulfilling. Trust the heart is not leading you astray.
- Embrace the pace - People constantly ask me how close we are, and I try and answer the question, but truthfully, I have absolutely no idea how close we are to being ready to hit the road full time. The pace is way slower than I'd like, but I have to embrace it, because if I don't, I'll just get caught up in the frustrations of it all going so slowly. Embracing the pace allows me to just be in the moment, doing what I can, and knowing that's goiing to be ok. Things are happening the way they're supposed to, and the universe works on a different timeline than what I want.
- Take it one breath at a time - Really, that's all we're ever given. Breath after breath until there's not breaths left. Remembering to breathe and savor each and every one to the best of my abilities has helped me trust and embrace. It's helped me keep my cool despite a few tear led meltdowns. I'm ok, because I have my breath.
I hope whatever you're working on in life right now that these little tips can help you out in some way. In an ideal world, we'd all be living the life of our dreams, without having to work for it, haha. But I know that once this RV is completed and we're out on the road, there will be such a deeper appreciation for the work that went into making the RV a place where we're all happy to spend quality family time together.