In my 34 years of life, I've been through a few periods of The Funk. Those periods where everything seems to be going against me. I'd be lethargic for lengthy periods and grumpy around the house. My last bout with The Funk almost cost me my marriage.
It wasn't until a few weekends ago when our friends Liz + Ryan (that's them and their awesome RV to the right) were in Kansas City for a few days for their Amazing Marriage Project that I really put into words the severity of it all and how I overcame The Funk.
Liz + Ryan were interviewing my lovely wife Jenny + I about our love story. We were chatting about how we met, fell in love and the lessons we've learned along the way. There was a point in the conversation where Liz asked me:
"What advice do you have for someone who might find themselves in a funk and wanting to get out?"
I paused and took a few deep breaths as I have never been asked that before. Those that were around me in that period of time know how messed up mentally I was. I wasn't taking care of myself. I wasn't eating healthy or exercising. I wasn't sleeping well so I was always tired. My son was sick and we had no clue what it was so that added even more stress. Jenny + I were fighting a lot...so much so that she was super close to leaving me. I would hide from everyone and lock myself in a room for a long time. I was always complaining about my life and how confused I was and that I didn't know what I was passionate about or what I was doing with my life and where it was headed. I was in The Funk, and it was a rough one.
So, how did I get out?
I chose to. It's as simple and complicated as that. It took me going to talk to my doctor about depression and a prescription that I never filled as a wake up call to change. It took a lot of hard work. It took a lot of time to repair the damage I'd done to my marriage. It took a lot of vegetables and clean food and Shaun T Insanity videos. It took me deciding 8 hours of sleep was a priority. It took me making the time to pause and get at least 10 minutes of meditation in every day. It took a whole lot of grace, from those around me and from myself. But it all started with a choice. It came down to me deciding that I was worth it and I had value to offer others. Self-love became a priority and the rest took care of itself.
I'll never say it was an easy process. Heck, I still have those doubts and fears slowly creep in from time to time. But I know that I'll never let myself get to where I was before. As Brian Andreas says, "Just remember how much you’re loved more than you forget and you’ll be ok."
That's my main goal in life. To remember how much I'm loved, and in doing so, I've discovered my life's purpose... To help others remember how much they're loved as well.
Thanks for reading and I'd strongly urge you to follow along and check out what Liz + Ryan are doing with their Amazing Marriage Project. Love wins. Always.