I recently read Donald Miller's new book, Scary Close
. In it, he talks a lot about showing your true self to the world. The very first sentence of the book, found in the Author's Note states, "Somebody once told me we will never feel loved until we drop the act, until we're willing to show our true selves to the people around us.
How true is that statement? How many times have you found yourself hiding your amazing true self from the world? How many times have you let fear keep you from showing up in your life...scared that if you showed these real pieces of you that people would go running...or judge you...or laugh at you...or just not understand you? I've been there. Most of my life has been lived from that scared space.
I shared on our Instagram
account Tuesday these words..."My deepest connections were forged through vulnerability; in the times when I wasn't afraid to show my true self...messiness and all.
" I know this is easy to say and hard to put into practice, but I can tell you this. Once I let my inner wild man out, my marriage got better. I became a better dad. I connected on deeper levels with my friends. I embraced all my imperfections. I apologized when I made mistakes, and I have said I love you more than I ever have in the past and it feels different now.
I say this because I know what it's like to hide and live scared. And I know how much better I feel not living that way. I know what it's like to hold tears inside because I have to show strength because I'm a man, and men don't cry. I know what it's like to feel like I can't support my wife, and as a man, I'm supposed to be able to take care of her. I know what it's like to fail, and feel shame in that. Yet, I know, now, that even in my failures and the times when I've shed tears and the times I've opened up that I am always enough. I've always been enough. When I felt shame, I was enough. When I have failed, I was enough. When I've yelled at Jenny and the kids, I was enough then, too. I know this now, and I want you to know this, also.
My point is this...
We are all beautiful souls. We are always enough. And this world needs us fully open and alive...messiness and all.
When you can get to this space of enoughness, you'll never want to go back to your old ways. You deserve to know you're lovable, enough and that you matter. You do. And really, it's the only thing in this life we deserve...to know we're loved. You are loved, my friends. All of you. My hope for you this week is you start small and show up in a moment where you feel like you want to hide. See what happens. I'm willing to be you'll be pleasantly surprised and see that, yes, you are enough and you're still alive. - Josh
If you decide to open up, I'd love it if you shared with me. Leave a comment below or click on contact up in the top and send me an email. I believe in you.